Reflection Of You

Men have you ever wounder why you have that special lady in your life that your friends either find something wrong with her or your family or whom ever, But in your heart, mind, body & soul you love her and know that she's the one just for you? It's simple she is a reflection of who you are inside and out.  Sometimes what ever you lackin yourlife or with in your self that woman that you have at your side is the example of that in which you are trying to get for yourself but missed. So when lack she pick up and carry for you. She show the standard in which you have not yet gotton and trying to find and maintain.  The way she carry herself, the way she value her self is reflecting how you see yourself when you look in the mirror. If you are a man that love to dress nice, love the finner things in life you gonna go get a woman that does thing same. You not gonna go get a woman that is below your standards of how you see your self in the public eye. You want you and your mate as an equal. Now if you the best looking dude in the room and your woman isn't all that pretty in the face but she hold that confidence to demand the attention of the room, she has reflected that confidence that you have to demand the room with her soul and self confidence than by her face or body! You both are what. reflccting off of each other.

Now with all that said. Men value your woman that you are blessed to have. We was not put on this earth to give you a good time and have your babies and wash ya'll clothes and have ya'll a hot meal on the table. Even though that is what we know to do but we are also the reprsentation of you as well. If you are taring us down you are tearing your self down because we was made from you, not you made from us. When God made us he made man first then took Adam's ribe and made Eve the woman. So if we come from your rib then its time for you all to start treating us like you treat your self and with the respect that you demand from others. If you don't value us as the woman that God has given you then you don't value your self as the man God has created you to be. So love you woman and treat her like the queen she deserve to be treated like. Let her know how much you love her and blessed that God made her after your very image and self worth. Whine and dine her, and let her pamper herself. Take it from a woman who just found the man that I reflect from. We up build each other and give each other the respect that we both deserve from each other. Love shouldn't be a two way street but one when you have the woman that is a reflection of you.

How Deep Is Your Love

This day & age the word (love) has become part of the everyday language of every man, boy, girl, & woman! At a point in life telling somebody that you loved them was a huge step and wasn't really spoken to funny unless that person was really & truly in love with the one they felt they could spend the rest of they lives with. Now its just second nature to everyone! Yeah love has many definitions and can go in several directions to mean two differnt ways of showing love. But the love i'm talking about is shared between two lovers not family or friends. Now lets break down what a person means when they say they love you & when they say they are in love with you! When your man or woman say that they love you! They haven't completly gottin to the point where they can give all of them to you! They are still in the prime of getting to know if you are the one that will love them & not cause they heart no kind of pain. They are also do self evauluating to search deep with in themself to make sure they are ready to fall and committ totally to you. They are loving you with they heart and mind! And the love stops right there! Now when they say they no long love you but they are in love with you! They have let all fears die and giving you they entire being. The love not only is coming from the heart & mind, but the soul! They have allowed you into another rim of they life and feel safe letting you into a special place that only God has ever been found. To get to that point they have to trust you completly and trust themselves as well. Being in love with some one to some is a big step so they take they time to get to that. Some it take years & other months& months down the road but they will come to that point. Falling in love with someone just don't come over night, it take's time! With that said and out of the way the one question that stands out in all of this is really how deep is your love for the one you share you world with? How far do you love extend for them or do you put limitations on the amount that you show the love and stand true to your word? Look at the following questions and ask yourself if your love is deep enough to stand the test of time or your love just isn't that strong!

1. You & your partner is out in the club. A fight break out & someone pulls out a gun. Your man or woman isn't paying attention and the gunman points it in they direction. You know by the time they realize it they could be the last you see them. Would you take that bulliet or would you put a limitaion on your token of love & say a quick prayer to God & hope they make it & save yourself.

2.Your man come home & tell you that the two of you need to talk about the work that you think he been going to do every night he leave the house. He tell you that he been really sleeping with his baby mothers & ex-girlfriends to make ends meet & slanging on the side. Do you let the love withstand this test and help get him a real job or do you say the hell with him and give him the boot?

3.You been with your girl for 4yrs & yall have a beautiful child together, at the most critical time of your life when your child need you, the truth is revealed that you aren't the father and the real child father need to be contacted for the childs well being. You go back in the room with the child and the mother with all this weighing heavy on your mind, you tell her you know and contact the real father. after the child is well, Do you continue love the mother or will you up and walk & let all that love go down the drain?

Now that is where the how deep is your love come into place. A lot of us say in the beinnging of relationships that we always gonna be there no matter what. You gonna be the one to make sure nothing ever happing to them and that you will be a man & woman of your word. So if those three questions was to just come into your life could you still keep the promises or will the love won't matter nomore and you just let go heal and find someone else. Why do we put limits on love? How come when situations & storms come into our relationships we don't want to talk & work things out, we are quick to throw it all away and leave some one else to deal with the problems we left behind. Lets learn to work things out before we just throw the love, committment, & work away. If you done put in 3yrs & up into keeping that person & loving them work it out, don't be another statistic in this world! Let love fix & mend what's been broken, not pulse of rage & hurt. By the time you come to the realization that you didn't want things to end it'll be too late to have that person back in your life, & in your arms! Think about it, your heart never lead you wrong!

Just Because U Birth A Child Don't Make U A Mother

A lot of woman and people all together is getting the birthin' kids and mother all mixed up. See a mother would do all that she can for her kids even if she has to go with out. A mother dosen't put her own needs before her kids nor do she put them in situations that she can't get them out of. A mother will nurish her kids back to health when they is sick and need that mothers touch. A mother stay on her knees praying for her kids while they out doing what they do on the daily. A mother will work her ass off to make sure that her kids have a warm place to sleep, food to eat, and clothes on they back. That is what a mother is that birth kids.

Now woman that just birth kids will put her needs before her childern. She would let her children starve while she eat and do what the fuck she want to do. Not only do she think about her self the most but she will put her men in place of her kids and let the men call the shouts. She leave her kids on someone else to raise while she hoe the streets and because her men say that they don't want a woman with kids so its either them or him and like the bitch she is, she will choose the man and take the kids to the neaiest realitive or the father if he is around and if he ain't then either grandma get'em or the state will send them from foster home to foster home. See woman like dis don't need to be fuckin if they can't take care of what the help create. Bad enough some of the kids have to grow up woundering why daddy isn't around or who they dad is but when a mother the one that supose to be dere when the dad isn't turn her back on her kids for a man or own selfish needs, what the fuck is you sayin to them kids? They didn't ask to be put here no more than you wanted them. If you ain't gonna take care of ya kids and love them the right way rape ya  nigga's dick's up or you get ya ass on birrh control, the patch or something or just don't fuck at all.

Now a days u seen more men being mother and father and you see the woman wanna run the streets like they aint' got a care in the world. Own up to ya responceabilities and stop running from them. You just can't throw ya kids away like you do ya men or women. Stop taking the kids through that shit. If you was man and woman enough to lay on ya back and open ya legs then be the same way when you have ya kids on this earth.

Become Who U Are Meant To Be

There are alot of people walking around everyday living a life due to the result of what others told them that we would become. Some are living the life of good fourtune and fame because they got the postive end of the people around them or they decided that they wasn’t gonna live the life of the curse that someone spoke on them and took back they life and dreams. But the others that you see end and out of jail doing shit just to get by didn’t get that positive talks and the team that would help support them to become what they felt that they could achieve and feel into the hands of the ( you ain’t gonna be nothing in life, you gonna end up in jail all ya life, you gonna see ya grave before you 21, you gonna end up just like ya daddy or mother) and the more they heard it the more they began to believe that and allowed it too take root of they soul and it began to dictate they life. Take the ones in your family that is going down a path of destruction and let them know that they don’t have to live the life that people spoke into they life that wasn’t good but they have the power to gain control of they life and change all that wat people told them all they life and use it for they own goal and determination. They don’t have to be another statistic of society they can be with the populations that is doing something with they  life and fullfiling they dreams.

With all that being said don’t let your past run you nor let the shit people planted in your head take root and control your life and be what they told u dat you would become. Be what you know you can be and live up to that not the lies they feeding you!

Nagging The Men

Men have you eva came home and wished that you could just have one day of piece without us bitchin at ya’ll all the time? Well hopefully you will get that after ya lady read the blog or you tell her bout it.

Ladies its time for us to keep it real and hear what the men is telling us about how we bitch and bitch for no reason at all. Some of us just love to hear ourselves talk and so we save all that energy for them when they get home. They left they parents house along time ago. They don’t need you as they mother telling them what they need to do when they need to have it done. That is something that they mother would tell them every day they got home from school or for what ever reason she kept repeating herself. We shouldn’t have to nag them about every little thing that they do. And some of you wounder why ya man be late coming home or don’t say nothing to you when they walk through the door. They is praying to God that they can walk into that house and not hear our complaining and all that. Learn to let them unwind and relax. Have they bath water ran and a hot meal on the table. Pamper them like they pamper us for a change. Once you learn how to chill with the bitching you will see the differnce in them and they will respond more affectivly to us when we ask them to do something. They will get it done but when they feel like they is being force to do it and told ova and ova they will not do it and progress. Give them time to get what you asked them to do. Stop hounding them like you a boot camp srgt. They is grown men just like we are grown woman. Now we always asking them to do for us but when the table is turned and they ask us when bitch and bitch and make them do it they self. So how you react they will react. So ladies lets reverse all that naggin and bitchin and put it to use someother kind of way. Give our men a break from the bitchin and turn it into some loving and pampering and see how they change and give you exactly what you are looking for them to do!

Making More Money Than Your Spouce

For years woman have been told that they place of work is inside of the home and that the man is the one to provide the life for his household and family. But look around you, there are plenty of woman in the work field doing things that we have always been told that we wouldn’t accomplish. Woman really didn’t have a voice when it came to our rights. Look at how things have changed now! We are holding government jobs, head chairmans of major companys, some even founders of they own jobs. Hillary Clinton has taken it up a notch to become President showing that woman can run a whole nation as long as she is given the chance too. We don’t have to be put on limitations based upon what society says, We can become that of our choice and excelle in it. Now a days it’s gonna take two to work if they are an average middle class family. One pay check alone can’t pay the bills with prices steady rising like it is. They will sturggle and you shouldn’t have to live pay check to pay check. Some woman feel that they can’t get a man because the men is intemidated by them because of the job they have and so on. But wake up woman there is nothing wrong with getting out there and making you own money and helping out. It’s a differnce when you out to help than to boast and belittle them. What I mean by be little them is this, You may have a job that is paying $15 an hour and your man or husband is making roughly $10 an hour, you look at your pay check as being more so you feel you have the right to pay the highest bill that you have or pay them all and tell him that his money isn’t needed. You can handle it on ya own. Even in the mist of arguments you’re quick to throw up in his face about how much you make and that you can make it with out him if he was to eva leave and that he would be the one that will be running back asking for help. You is belitting him. When it comes to who make more money isn’t the problem that the men have. They don’t mind you getting out there and work and doing something to better yourself but it become a problem when you step into the role that they have been playing for years and that’s the provider, and the protecter. Steping into that role is taking away they pride of being the man of the house.  That’s when the problem is formed. You can go to them and say. Well Baby I know the bills is coming around and you been handling things on ya own and to show how much I appricate all that you have been doing for the family and the house I want to help ease the burden off of you and put in with you and pay some of the bills. Let me contribute! Or you can just simply do something special for him but neva step into that role that they been holding for so long! They feel in control when they are looked upon as the provider. Like  I said it is never bout who make more money is about steping into they role and taking ova! So ladies you can work and make more money than ya spouse just set some aside for hard times and for ya self and kids but neva cross the line of taking over the role of provider!

Chasing Behind The Wrong Ones

I think it’s time that we all come to reality and see that so many men & woman rather run to the people that are in relationships or married rather than finding the ones that are single and looking for that special somebody to call they own. But folk rather be "HOME WRECKERS". Yeah those that cheat with them are just as bad but those that still go after them is just as foolish! Yeah some folk will lie and say that they aren’t with someone, and you can’t be fauted for that. Yet and still they show signs that they are spoken for! You only get the pager number, or the cell number but neva they house number! (That should tell you something) They give you a time when to call and not to call! They always come to your house but never allow you to come to they house unless you pitch a fit and bitch all the time! So they give in! But Karma is a bitch when the tables is turned! What you think you getting a way with you’re not! God see’s it all and you gonna get punishied for it! You’re commiting a adultry and that is a sin in the eyes of God! There are men and woman out there for you that are single and willing to committ. Even if you don’t want to committ be up front and let them know what you are looking for and let it be at that. Why mess up some one elses home to satisfy your own selfish needs! Why do all that running round being a home wreacker and pay for it in the long run! Some are so quick to become angry when they man or woman cheat, but how can you say anything when you was doing they same thing with some one elses man or woman! Yeah you may have been single when u done it but you knew that they was not yours but you still felt the need to stick around and be in that person life! No need to cause your self heart ach and pain because they won’t leave they man or woman that’s at home! If they really wanted to leave who they with they would have been done it! but they haven’t so that should tell you to leave it alone and go on about your business! Stop being so desprate and wait for the right one to come along! Use the time alone to work on you!

I don’t know who this is for but I know alot of you got a man or woman at home and you steping out and you gonna rep what you sow! Nothing you do dats not pleasing to God go unpunishied! Some of you wounder ing why you going through the stuff that you are and its because of all the stuff you done did to others! If you done cheated on ya spouse and you can’t understand why ya relationship is going the way it is! Think back what you done did with someone else and tough that out! You caused it on ya self! Stop what you doing and stop laying on ya back giving up ya goods to a man or woman that got somebody at home! People is not playing now a days when it come to who they love! People done lost they lives because of the running around! Take heed to the warning and you can’t say you wasn’t warned!