Reflection Of You

Men have you ever wounder why you have that special lady in your life that your friends either find something wrong with her or your family or whom ever, But in your heart, mind, body & soul you love her and know that she's the one just for you? It's simple she is a reflection of who you are inside and out.  Sometimes what ever you lackin yourlife or with in your self that woman that you have at your side is the example of that in which you are trying to get for yourself but missed. So when lack she pick up and carry for you. She show the standard in which you have not yet gotton and trying to find and maintain.  The way she carry herself, the way she value her self is reflecting how you see yourself when you look in the mirror. If you are a man that love to dress nice, love the finner things in life you gonna go get a woman that does thing same. You not gonna go get a woman that is below your standards of how you see your self in the public eye. You want you and your mate as an equal. Now if you the best looking dude in the room and your woman isn't all that pretty in the face but she hold that confidence to demand the attention of the room, she has reflected that confidence that you have to demand the room with her soul and self confidence than by her face or body! You both are what. reflccting off of each other.

Now with all that said. Men value your woman that you are blessed to have. We was not put on this earth to give you a good time and have your babies and wash ya'll clothes and have ya'll a hot meal on the table. Even though that is what we know to do but we are also the reprsentation of you as well. If you are taring us down you are tearing your self down because we was made from you, not you made from us. When God made us he made man first then took Adam's ribe and made Eve the woman. So if we come from your rib then its time for you all to start treating us like you treat your self and with the respect that you demand from others. If you don't value us as the woman that God has given you then you don't value your self as the man God has created you to be. So love you woman and treat her like the queen she deserve to be treated like. Let her know how much you love her and blessed that God made her after your very image and self worth. Whine and dine her, and let her pamper herself. Take it from a woman who just found the man that I reflect from. We up build each other and give each other the respect that we both deserve from each other. Love shouldn't be a two way street but one when you have the woman that is a reflection of you.

How Deep Is Your Love

This day & age the word (love) has become part of the everyday language of every man, boy, girl, & woman! At a point in life telling somebody that you loved them was a huge step and wasn't really spoken to funny unless that person was really & truly in love with the one they felt they could spend the rest of they lives with. Now its just second nature to everyone! Yeah love has many definitions and can go in several directions to mean two differnt ways of showing love. But the love i'm talking about is shared between two lovers not family or friends. Now lets break down what a person means when they say they love you & when they say they are in love with you! When your man or woman say that they love you! They haven't completly gottin to the point where they can give all of them to you! They are still in the prime of getting to know if you are the one that will love them & not cause they heart no kind of pain. They are also do self evauluating to search deep with in themself to make sure they are ready to fall and committ totally to you. They are loving you with they heart and mind! And the love stops right there! Now when they say they no long love you but they are in love with you! They have let all fears die and giving you they entire being. The love not only is coming from the heart & mind, but the soul! They have allowed you into another rim of they life and feel safe letting you into a special place that only God has ever been found. To get to that point they have to trust you completly and trust themselves as well. Being in love with some one to some is a big step so they take they time to get to that. Some it take years & other months& months down the road but they will come to that point. Falling in love with someone just don't come over night, it take's time! With that said and out of the way the one question that stands out in all of this is really how deep is your love for the one you share you world with? How far do you love extend for them or do you put limitations on the amount that you show the love and stand true to your word? Look at the following questions and ask yourself if your love is deep enough to stand the test of time or your love just isn't that strong!

1. You & your partner is out in the club. A fight break out & someone pulls out a gun. Your man or woman isn't paying attention and the gunman points it in they direction. You know by the time they realize it they could be the last you see them. Would you take that bulliet or would you put a limitaion on your token of love & say a quick prayer to God & hope they make it & save yourself.

2.Your man come home & tell you that the two of you need to talk about the work that you think he been going to do every night he leave the house. He tell you that he been really sleeping with his baby mothers & ex-girlfriends to make ends meet & slanging on the side. Do you let the love withstand this test and help get him a real job or do you say the hell with him and give him the boot?

3.You been with your girl for 4yrs & yall have a beautiful child together, at the most critical time of your life when your child need you, the truth is revealed that you aren't the father and the real child father need to be contacted for the childs well being. You go back in the room with the child and the mother with all this weighing heavy on your mind, you tell her you know and contact the real father. after the child is well, Do you continue love the mother or will you up and walk & let all that love go down the drain?

Now that is where the how deep is your love come into place. A lot of us say in the beinnging of relationships that we always gonna be there no matter what. You gonna be the one to make sure nothing ever happing to them and that you will be a man & woman of your word. So if those three questions was to just come into your life could you still keep the promises or will the love won't matter nomore and you just let go heal and find someone else. Why do we put limits on love? How come when situations & storms come into our relationships we don't want to talk & work things out, we are quick to throw it all away and leave some one else to deal with the problems we left behind. Lets learn to work things out before we just throw the love, committment, & work away. If you done put in 3yrs & up into keeping that person & loving them work it out, don't be another statistic in this world! Let love fix & mend what's been broken, not pulse of rage & hurt. By the time you come to the realization that you didn't want things to end it'll be too late to have that person back in your life, & in your arms! Think about it, your heart never lead you wrong!

Just Because U Birth A Child Don't Make U A Mother

A lot of woman and people all together is getting the birthin' kids and mother all mixed up. See a mother would do all that she can for her kids even if she has to go with out. A mother dosen't put her own needs before her kids nor do she put them in situations that she can't get them out of. A mother will nurish her kids back to health when they is sick and need that mothers touch. A mother stay on her knees praying for her kids while they out doing what they do on the daily. A mother will work her ass off to make sure that her kids have a warm place to sleep, food to eat, and clothes on they back. That is what a mother is that birth kids.

Now woman that just birth kids will put her needs before her childern. She would let her children starve while she eat and do what the fuck she want to do. Not only do she think about her self the most but she will put her men in place of her kids and let the men call the shouts. She leave her kids on someone else to raise while she hoe the streets and because her men say that they don't want a woman with kids so its either them or him and like the bitch she is, she will choose the man and take the kids to the neaiest realitive or the father if he is around and if he ain't then either grandma get'em or the state will send them from foster home to foster home. See woman like dis don't need to be fuckin if they can't take care of what the help create. Bad enough some of the kids have to grow up woundering why daddy isn't around or who they dad is but when a mother the one that supose to be dere when the dad isn't turn her back on her kids for a man or own selfish needs, what the fuck is you sayin to them kids? They didn't ask to be put here no more than you wanted them. If you ain't gonna take care of ya kids and love them the right way rape ya  nigga's dick's up or you get ya ass on birrh control, the patch or something or just don't fuck at all.

Now a days u seen more men being mother and father and you see the woman wanna run the streets like they aint' got a care in the world. Own up to ya responceabilities and stop running from them. You just can't throw ya kids away like you do ya men or women. Stop taking the kids through that shit. If you was man and woman enough to lay on ya back and open ya legs then be the same way when you have ya kids on this earth.

Become Who U Are Meant To Be

There are alot of people walking around everyday living a life due to the result of what others told them that we would become. Some are living the life of good fourtune and fame because they got the postive end of the people around them or they decided that they wasn’t gonna live the life of the curse that someone spoke on them and took back they life and dreams. But the others that you see end and out of jail doing shit just to get by didn’t get that positive talks and the team that would help support them to become what they felt that they could achieve and feel into the hands of the ( you ain’t gonna be nothing in life, you gonna end up in jail all ya life, you gonna see ya grave before you 21, you gonna end up just like ya daddy or mother) and the more they heard it the more they began to believe that and allowed it too take root of they soul and it began to dictate they life. Take the ones in your family that is going down a path of destruction and let them know that they don’t have to live the life that people spoke into they life that wasn’t good but they have the power to gain control of they life and change all that wat people told them all they life and use it for they own goal and determination. They don’t have to be another statistic of society they can be with the populations that is doing something with they  life and fullfiling they dreams.

With all that being said don’t let your past run you nor let the shit people planted in your head take root and control your life and be what they told u dat you would become. Be what you know you can be and live up to that not the lies they feeding you!

Nagging The Men

Men have you eva came home and wished that you could just have one day of piece without us bitchin at ya’ll all the time? Well hopefully you will get that after ya lady read the blog or you tell her bout it.

Ladies its time for us to keep it real and hear what the men is telling us about how we bitch and bitch for no reason at all. Some of us just love to hear ourselves talk and so we save all that energy for them when they get home. They left they parents house along time ago. They don’t need you as they mother telling them what they need to do when they need to have it done. That is something that they mother would tell them every day they got home from school or for what ever reason she kept repeating herself. We shouldn’t have to nag them about every little thing that they do. And some of you wounder why ya man be late coming home or don’t say nothing to you when they walk through the door. They is praying to God that they can walk into that house and not hear our complaining and all that. Learn to let them unwind and relax. Have they bath water ran and a hot meal on the table. Pamper them like they pamper us for a change. Once you learn how to chill with the bitching you will see the differnce in them and they will respond more affectivly to us when we ask them to do something. They will get it done but when they feel like they is being force to do it and told ova and ova they will not do it and progress. Give them time to get what you asked them to do. Stop hounding them like you a boot camp srgt. They is grown men just like we are grown woman. Now we always asking them to do for us but when the table is turned and they ask us when bitch and bitch and make them do it they self. So how you react they will react. So ladies lets reverse all that naggin and bitchin and put it to use someother kind of way. Give our men a break from the bitchin and turn it into some loving and pampering and see how they change and give you exactly what you are looking for them to do!

Making More Money Than Your Spouce

For years woman have been told that they place of work is inside of the home and that the man is the one to provide the life for his household and family. But look around you, there are plenty of woman in the work field doing things that we have always been told that we wouldn’t accomplish. Woman really didn’t have a voice when it came to our rights. Look at how things have changed now! We are holding government jobs, head chairmans of major companys, some even founders of they own jobs. Hillary Clinton has taken it up a notch to become President showing that woman can run a whole nation as long as she is given the chance too. We don’t have to be put on limitations based upon what society says, We can become that of our choice and excelle in it. Now a days it’s gonna take two to work if they are an average middle class family. One pay check alone can’t pay the bills with prices steady rising like it is. They will sturggle and you shouldn’t have to live pay check to pay check. Some woman feel that they can’t get a man because the men is intemidated by them because of the job they have and so on. But wake up woman there is nothing wrong with getting out there and making you own money and helping out. It’s a differnce when you out to help than to boast and belittle them. What I mean by be little them is this, You may have a job that is paying $15 an hour and your man or husband is making roughly $10 an hour, you look at your pay check as being more so you feel you have the right to pay the highest bill that you have or pay them all and tell him that his money isn’t needed. You can handle it on ya own. Even in the mist of arguments you’re quick to throw up in his face about how much you make and that you can make it with out him if he was to eva leave and that he would be the one that will be running back asking for help. You is belitting him. When it comes to who make more money isn’t the problem that the men have. They don’t mind you getting out there and work and doing something to better yourself but it become a problem when you step into the role that they have been playing for years and that’s the provider, and the protecter. Steping into that role is taking away they pride of being the man of the house.  That’s when the problem is formed. You can go to them and say. Well Baby I know the bills is coming around and you been handling things on ya own and to show how much I appricate all that you have been doing for the family and the house I want to help ease the burden off of you and put in with you and pay some of the bills. Let me contribute! Or you can just simply do something special for him but neva step into that role that they been holding for so long! They feel in control when they are looked upon as the provider. Like  I said it is never bout who make more money is about steping into they role and taking ova! So ladies you can work and make more money than ya spouse just set some aside for hard times and for ya self and kids but neva cross the line of taking over the role of provider!

Chasing Behind The Wrong Ones

I think it’s time that we all come to reality and see that so many men & woman rather run to the people that are in relationships or married rather than finding the ones that are single and looking for that special somebody to call they own. But folk rather be "HOME WRECKERS". Yeah those that cheat with them are just as bad but those that still go after them is just as foolish! Yeah some folk will lie and say that they aren’t with someone, and you can’t be fauted for that. Yet and still they show signs that they are spoken for! You only get the pager number, or the cell number but neva they house number! (That should tell you something) They give you a time when to call and not to call! They always come to your house but never allow you to come to they house unless you pitch a fit and bitch all the time! So they give in! But Karma is a bitch when the tables is turned! What you think you getting a way with you’re not! God see’s it all and you gonna get punishied for it! You’re commiting a adultry and that is a sin in the eyes of God! There are men and woman out there for you that are single and willing to committ. Even if you don’t want to committ be up front and let them know what you are looking for and let it be at that. Why mess up some one elses home to satisfy your own selfish needs! Why do all that running round being a home wreacker and pay for it in the long run! Some are so quick to become angry when they man or woman cheat, but how can you say anything when you was doing they same thing with some one elses man or woman! Yeah you may have been single when u done it but you knew that they was not yours but you still felt the need to stick around and be in that person life! No need to cause your self heart ach and pain because they won’t leave they man or woman that’s at home! If they really wanted to leave who they with they would have been done it! but they haven’t so that should tell you to leave it alone and go on about your business! Stop being so desprate and wait for the right one to come along! Use the time alone to work on you!

I don’t know who this is for but I know alot of you got a man or woman at home and you steping out and you gonna rep what you sow! Nothing you do dats not pleasing to God go unpunishied! Some of you wounder ing why you going through the stuff that you are and its because of all the stuff you done did to others! If you done cheated on ya spouse and you can’t understand why ya relationship is going the way it is! Think back what you done did with someone else and tough that out! You caused it on ya self! Stop what you doing and stop laying on ya back giving up ya goods to a man or woman that got somebody at home! People is not playing now a days when it come to who they love! People done lost they lives because of the running around! Take heed to the warning and you can’t say you wasn’t warned!

The Sideline Women

 I find it really funny how married woman, woman in relationships, or single woman push up on somebody that they know for a fact that they takin off da block!! Its even da more so crazy how they buy the lines that these men feed them!! Just to get what they want then they back at home with they woman!! Is ya'll that low on ya self esteem that u rather fuck with something that you know nothing bout, futher more u rather fuck up ya own life knowin damn well better that its a game of pleasure wit no strings attached!!! Then again if you fall for it or make arrangements wit a mutherfucka u dont know mean u desperate and wanna be a hoe!! But know you never can touch the thron that his woman hold!!! At the end of the day, he know who really hold his best intrest at heart vs da side line hoe thats taggin along fo da ride!! A real man whether he a goon, thug, gangsta or ya average joe, he always hold on to his good thang!! WHY??? U ask!!! Its simple he know that woman gonna hold him down when the world turn they back on him. He know his real woman, his down ass bitch, gonna do everything she can to make sure they be alright and faulter in her ways she will not!! Yeah she may do things that he dont like cuz it make fuck up his game plan but he will never leta side line hoe fuck up his sure place of home,comfort, loyaltiy, and last but not least his backbone!!!  So I sit back and watch it all and laughin at the process of how woman fall lame to the game when they play the roll of a sideline hoe! think about it for a sec if u was really wat he wanted to make something real with, he'd been done play that deck of cards!!! So to all the ladies that's been tryflin and be a side line hoe!! Word from the wise!!! Its not gonna last long it never do!! Get somebody that is really into ya not wat they can get out ya! Then again u must dont know no better!! Men love a woman that don't give in so easly!! Let him know she ain't giving it to every nigga dat say hi or lets fuck!! Wise up or get left behind! To many diseases running round to open up ya legs to everybody!!

Now That Your Good Thing Is Gone!

When you had your good thing in your life, you was being catered to,anything you wanted you didn't have to ask twice. You got and then soome. But you chose for what ever reason you felt to deny yo good thang at home, now look at where it got you. Out in the cold, alone, when you was with me you was kept warm, and held down when u needed to be. I was there for you when your so called friends wouldn't do a damn thang fo you. Tell me this, where is your lil'ladies thats been dying to get at you and you been dying to get at them? Um just like i thought they no where to be found. You did all that denying just to keep up ya lil'pimp game.... I see... Now who's callin who, blowin up my phone coming up wtih lame escuses to pop up and come see me or just to get a simple hello? Remember sweetie you was with me by default!! Funny thing is, I didn't ask you to be with me! You done that. I was kool with how things where on the friendship tip. You caught feelings and wanted me in your life as your girl.. But see you said you was a (REAL MAN) but when you caught this (Real Ass Woman) you caught something you wasn't ready for. You was used to those woman that jumped at the least lil'thing you said. When you threatn' to get somebody else they fell at yo feet beggin you not to leave!! But the tables got turned when you decided to be in a relationship with me. I wasn't like them, I didn't give damn bout your threats you made, due to the simple fact I know I was good to you, and I know that you won't ever come cross a female of my good gracies to do for you the way that I did. When I called you out on ya stuff, you threw up in my face bout shawties that wanted you, wanted to see, what u was expectin me to cry,be you to stay, sorry baby NO Deal!!! I been hurt far too much to keep puttin up with sorry ass men that can't appricate a good woman. So I'll let you cross the fence and u'll see its nothing like the good good you was gettin at home and you will  see the affects of what take place when you lose something that was real, ginuwine, and good to you. The funny thing is , I don't hate you at all, I hold love for you, but see, U missin  out on rare crafted jewel, and you allowing other dudes to have what you could've had and held on too for a life time........ But it is what is and like the other ex-files dat done me wrong, they always say they was a fool to let me go. You made the bed now you have to lay in it. One more thing I forgive ya, not for your sake but for mine... I cant walk around with that weight on my shoulders when I know I did nothing wrong to you!!! But you don't miss a good thing until its gone and when u realize what you had it's too late!! peace!

Quote Of The Day

Never make apologies for who you are, what you are about, and what you stand for. Just apologize for them not being able to understand!

Children Of Tomorrow Dying

From the time I can remember, I was always told that the children is the future. Yet when we turn on the television or the radio or pick up the newspaper, there we have our youth killing each other off with no reasons at all. There was a time when you just fought the old fashion way just using our fists, after the fight we was done with it. (sighs) We as adults have to accept responsibilities for the out of control behavior of our youth, that suppose to be the future generation after we are no longer here to guide them. If violence is all they know, thats all they children going to know. We have to get control, we got to take  a stand against all this violence that is taking place right in front of us. We got to, its a must. We can't be so busy all the time that we can't fix the issues that is at hand with these kids out here. The lack of guidance, the lack of love, the lack of patience is what is driving them to look else where for the attention. We losing our youth to violence than from any other causes. WAKE UP AMERICA!!!!!! Stop trying to put it on the media, the music and accept the fact that we are much to blame. We put them in front of the televisions, just to keep them out of our hair and once they gone we want to cry and say what a shame, Yeah it is a damn shame because we are letting the CHILDREN OF TOMORROW KILL THEY SELF OFF ONE AFTER THE OTHER!!!!!! They are troubled children, they are children that are crying out for help but nobody is hearing they cry because everybody else is too busy worried about they own life. Well guess what they are our life until they are 18yrs old and even after that they still is our life because they are now going to need the truth of how to make it in adult world. You just can't toss them in our world you have to coach them and guide them. Once you have taught them and once you have showed them the way, its left up to them to make the decisions as they own person. With that being said lets save our Children of Tomorrow before we don't have a future!

One Form

Love comes in one form, but we make it have plenty characteristics to fit our own expectations. So why is it when we get hurt or things don't go according to plan, it's always the other fault? If we give out love, shouldn't we be able to manage how much we give? Is it possible to out smart the negative ropes of love or is it best to just let it play out? Yeah each love is differnt with the next but we always use the same format and tactic tyme and tyme again. When will it ever change?

It's Not Your Goods That Keep Him At Home

I know some may disagree but the men will agree. It is tyme for us women to wake up und realize dat our goods isn't the real reason why our men stay with us nor is it the reason why the do for us. Trust there are females that can put it down better than you. So all this talk bout with holding until you get what you want is only hurting you not them. They let u thank dats why dea give you wat u want but really its because dea love you and dont mimd. So please ladies stop thankin lyke dat cuz u can be replaced.

Food For Thought

Think outside the box and expand the horizion. Never limit your capabilities, you'll never make it out these streets. Remember the saying ("closed moufs dont get fed"). Here's a new one. "waisted ambition is lyke comitting sucide. Overdosing on too much posibilities, when you can turn all those dreams into your reality". You become a failar wen u give up before you even start.

Make It Happen Even If You Stand Alone

People can be a trip sometimes. They always seem to show their true colors when they feel you getting closer to reaching your mark in life. But they so stuck on blocking your sucess that they stoping they blessing as well. Even with all dat, keep pushing closer to making ya dreams come true. If you got to make it to the top alone, so be it. Don't let friends, family & or lover keep you in shyt u trying to get away from. If they can't make da move with you, best to walk alone than have dead weight holding you down.

Losing Life To The Streets

There are alot of struggle going in all our lives and we all done faced alot of life changing situations. Now the thangs I'm bout to say may raise concerns & I pray to God it do. We need to closing our eyes to the truth and help the youngsters. Now I'm not passing judgement on any one, what they do they do, but when lil'kids is in the mist and they become victoms and take the back seat so they parents can support they habits, it become a concern for me. Now the system looking down and want to ridicule mothers that are stripper's. Yet those woman are doing it to make things easier for her kids and not leting them see her in action. They also judge the fathers that are hustling in the streets to make ends meets. They not putting they kids in front of it. Yet they are the first ones to be taken down. WHAT? They doing it so they kids don't have to lack or suffer. They doing it with they family in mind. Not they own selfish needs. But they want to keep kids in an environment where they see everything up front and personal. Why is it that they are willing to let mothers who get are on drugs and turning tricks to be loose in the  streets with they kids but locking up the ones that do what they do for they kids! Da shit is fuck'd up. Do the kids of tomorrow mean anything to anybody? The streets are claiming the youth yet shit isn't being done to save them. Its like they want the addiction to become they addiction and kill themself. We can't keep leting habits of the parent become thiers. We dont need to loose them or they parents to the streets.

Not Down For Da Struggle

I'm so tired of females talking bout how much they love the man they with but soon as they hear ("Baby, I'm going thru some really hard times. Thangs got to change for a min.") they packing bags and moving on to the next man. Females so fuck'n trifalin. And they wounder why men treat them the way that they do. Hell if you can't stand by your man side when he down and out, how da fuck you gone stand when he is on his feet. Don't you know a man cherish a woman the more when she stand firm when a storm come into his life. You can apreciate things the more when u see the work behind the scense to get what he got. Men don't want no weak woman they need they strong backbone. So ladies stop looking fo a man to take care of ya ass all the time. We all have rough days and we all dealing with dis rescesion so ya spending habits gone be short. Cant handle it. Get yo ass a job or go find Trump.

If Its Not From God Keep Ya Advice

Everybody is so quick to throw out they personal veiws and opinions when it come to certain issues in your life. Yet they can't see the issues that surround they life. For me personally and this is just me not speaking for anybody else, but the only words of wisdom and advice I want to be given is what God tell that person to speak into my life. His words of wisdom and warnings don't cause you to miss out on what he has for you. Stop being so quick to run to man for advice and seek God. He will give u conformation when he send that person to bare wittness to what he himself spoke unto you. Learn to try the spirit by the spirit. Not everybody that give advice give you the right answers to ya issues. Especially if they are envious of you and the way God is blessing you.

Matter Of The Heart

What would become of your life when it came down to your true happiness if u always over looked what your heart tells you? I mean why stay in relationships or situations that is only causing u pain and not giving u all in which you deserve an require? Have people just gave up and settle for da bullshit that is given to them cause they afraid of change and taken risk? Shyt life is about change and risk. Not settling 4 shyt below ya means of true happiness. Da hell wit dat. Id take change an risk and true happiness 4 200 Alex. Man life to short to be misrable at the hands of other people that dont give a damn and not tryn to improve and be real bout they shyt.

Neva Put A Man B4 Yo Kids

I find it sicking when I see dumb ass women put a man needs and her own needs before her kids. There is no way in hell any body come before somethang that I pushed out of me. I mean damn you carried a precious person inside of you. Felt them grow inside you. How can you become cold and heartless. Never given them that motherly love that they require. My God what is going on ladies. What turned some so cold? A man come and go but yo kids will always be there no matter how many fallouts you have. They always got yo back when ya so called dont.

A Real Man

A REAL MAN, knows & understand the value & worth of his woman. A NIGGA thinks she's worthless & treat her lyke a comman bitch. A REAL MAN walk beside his lady with his head held high in confidence. A NIGGA walk in front of her making it all about him as if he's alone. A REAL MAN will proudly tell hoes he's taken & send them on they way. A NIGGA will deny his girl & play the field. A REAL MAN defends his woman. A NIGGA leave her to defend her own self. A REAL MAN never hurt his woman purposely to cause pain. A NIGGA thrieve seeing her in tears. A REAL MAN caters to his woman treating her lyke the Queen she is. A NIGGA takes from her & treat her lyke his servent. A REAL MAN thank God daily for the blessing he gave unto him in her. A NIGGA always complains. Never greatfull or satisfied. So all you Niggas take notes from the REAL MEN.